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Anger is a normal feeling and can be a positive emotion when it helps you work through issues or problems, whether at work or home. However, anger can become problematic if it leads to aggression, outbursts, or physical altercations. Anger control is important for helping you avoid saying or doing something you may regret. Before anger escalates, you can use specific strategies for controlling anger.<\/p>\n

What is Anger?<\/h2>\n

Anger is a normal, healthy emotion, neither good nor bad. Like any emotion, it conveys a message that a situation is upsetting, unjust, or threatening. However, if your knee-jerk reaction to anger is to explode, that message can never be conveyed.<\/p>\n

While it\u2019s perfectly normal to feel angry when you\u2019ve been mistreated or wronged, anger becomes a problem when you express it in a way that harms yourself or others. You might think that venting your anger is healthy, that the people around you are too sensitive, that your anger is justified, or that you must show your fury to get respect. But the truth is that anger is much more likely to hurt how people see you, impair your judgment, and get in the way of success.<\/p>\n

Effects of Anger<\/h2>\n

Chronic anger<\/strong> that flares up all the time or spirals out of control can have serious consequences for your:<\/p>\n

Physical health:<\/strong> Constantly operating at high levels of stress and anger makes you more susceptible to heart disease, diabetes, a weakened immune system, insomnia, and high blood pressure.<\/p>\n

Mental health:<\/strong> Chronic anger consumes huge amounts of mental energy and clouds your thinking, making it harder to concentrate or enjoy life. It can also lead to stress, depression, and other mental health problems.<\/p>\n

Career:<\/strong> Constructive criticism, creative differences, and heated debate can be healthy. But lashing out only alienates your colleagues, supervisors, or clients and erodes their respect.<\/p>\n

Relationships:<\/strong> Anger can cause lasting scars in the people you love most and get in the way of friendships and work relationships. Explosive anger makes it hard for others to trust you, speak honestly, or feel comfortable\u2014and is especially damaging to children.<\/p>\n

If you have a hot temper, you may feel like it\u2019s out of your hands, and there\u2019s little you can do to tame the beast. But you have more control over your anger than you think. With insight into the real reasons for your anger and these anger management tools, you can learn to express your emotions without hurting others and keep your temper from hijacking your life.<\/p>\n

How Anger Management Can Help You<\/h2>\n

Many people think that anger management is about learning to suppress your anger. But never getting angry is not a healthy goal. Anger will come out regardless of how hard you try to tamp it down. The true goal of anger management isn\u2019t to suppress feelings of anger but rather to understand the message behind the emotion and express it healthily without losing control. When you do, you\u2019ll not only feel better, but you\u2019ll also be more likely to get your needs met, be better able to manage conflict in your life and strengthen your relationships.<\/p>\n

Mastering the art of anger management takes work, but the more you practice, the easier it will get. And the payoff is huge. Learning to control and express your anger appropriately will help you build better relationships, achieve your goals, and lead a healthier, more satisfying life.<\/p>\n

Tip 1: Explore What\u2019s Really Behind Your Anger<\/h2>\n

Have you ever gotten into an argument over something silly? Big fights often happen over something small, like a dish left out or ten minutes late. But there\u2019s usually a bigger issue behind it. If you find your irritation and anger rapidly rising, ask yourself, \u201cWhat am I really angry about?\u201d Identifying the source of frustration will help you communicate your anger better, take constructive action, and work towards a resolution.<\/p>\n

Is your anger masking other feelings such as embarrassment, insecurity, hurt, shame, or vulnerability? If your knee-jerk response in many situations is anger, your temper is likely covering up your true feelings. This is especially likely if you grew up in a family where expressing feelings was strongly discouraged. As an adult, you may have difficulty acknowledging feelings other than anger.<\/p>\n

Anger can also mask anxiety. When you perceive a real or imagined threat, your body activates the \u201cfight or flight\u201d response. In the case of the \u201cfight\u201d response, it can often manifest itself as anger or aggression. To change your response, you need to find out what\u2019s causing you to feel anxious or scared.<\/p>\n

Anger problems can stem from what you learned as a child. If you watched others in your family scream, hit each other, or throw things, you might think this is how anger is supposed to be expressed.<\/p>\n

Anger can be a symptom of another underlying health problem, such as depression (especially in men), trauma, or chronic stress.<\/p>\n

Clues That There\u2019s More to Your Anger Than Meets the Eye<\/h3>\n