Blow jobs, hand jobs, and make-out sessions are obvious ones, but it’s time that we give foreplay some attention in this post and in real life.
Foreplay is seen as the warm-up before the real act. At worst, it’s seen as something that guys feel that they have to do for us. While foreplay is almost always the lead up to another sexy time act, that doesn’t mean that it has to be boring, repetitive, or even stale. So to ensure you’re getting the most out of things, check out the 5 mistakes that you and bae are probably making during foreplay below.
1. Faking it
Faking orgasms isn’t a good idea and pretending that you like something during foreplay isn’t a good idea, either. It’s understandable if you don’t want to hurt bae’s feelings, but it’s important that you speak up, especially if you’re uncomfortable.
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2. Not all other body parts
Do you and bae just do the peen, vagina, and maybe the boobs thing alone? While there definitely isn’t anything wrong with any of that, that is only half of it. You have nerves and feelings in every part of your body from your head to your toes so try to show some attention to other areas during foreplay.
3. Not enjoying teasing
Instead of getting frustrated that this foreplay stuff is taking too long and you just want to finish, stop, take a breath, and enjoy the teasing. When you stop focusing so much on finishing, your pleasure senses will be heightened through the entire experience.
4. Not communicating
Chances are you and bae have talked about what you like and don’t like in the bedroom, but have you ever specifically mentioned foreplay stuff? If not, now is the time to speak up about it. When you both have an idea of what the other person likes and doesn’t like, you can adjust your game so all parties get a more enjoyable experience.
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5. Being so focused on finishing
If so, you need to open up your mind. That’s not all what sex is about. If you’re just focused on that end result, you won’t enjoy any of the amazing stuff along the way, including foreplay. Instead of thinking about results, start thinking about what you’re feeling right now.