A social media exchange between actress Nkechi Blessing and reality TV star Phyna has drawn attention after the two women traded words online on Thursday, September 17, 2026.
It began when Nkechi addressed Phyna in an Instagram video, questioning her conduct on social media and telling her to calm down. Phyna later responded, saying she was confused about why the actress had publicly called her out, especially because they were not friends and had only previously spoken about a movie and a proposed stream.
But before the exchange became public, the two women had actually shared a cordial conversation weeks earlier.
Here is how the drama unfolded.
How Nkechi Blessing Started The Conversation
On Thursday, September 17, Nkechi Blessing shared a video on Instagram, explaining why she had decided to speak about Phyna. She began by saying she usually stayed away from trending issues and preferred to speak at her own time. Then she addressed Phyna directly.
“Phyna, what’s your problem?”
One thing Nkechi said had been getting on her nerves was the way people compared her appearance to Phyna’s whenever she posted pictures. She also described Phyna as troublesome and questioned her approach to online disagreements.
“Phyna, relax. Must you fight with everybody?”
Nkechi went on to remind Phyna that she was 37 and said she was older than her.
“I am not your mate. So before you set your camera and try to insult me, just know say I am 37.”
The actress then asked Phyna to calm down and accused her of doing too much online.
“You are doing too much. You’re not going to come online, talk to people anyhow.”
She also questioned whether Phyna had people around her who could advise her and told her to stop interpreting every criticism as bullying.
Nkechi did not stop at telling Phyna to calm down. She reflected on her own past, admitting that she had also been troublesome on social media before deciding to step away from Instagram drama. According to her, that decision brought her peace.
“I used to be a very troublesome person. But since the day I stopped doing all this Instagram drama, I have peace.”
She urged Phyna to do the same and said she would tell her the truth if nobody else would.
“If you don’t see anyone to tell you the truth, me Nkechi Blessing, I will tell you.”
The actress then accused Phyna of attracting attention for the wrong reasons.
“You are doing too much and you are becoming a nuisance on the street of Instagram.”
Nkechi also referred to Phyna’s previous online confrontation with another person, saying that while many people supported her, she believed Phyna needed to step back and assess her actions. Her comments were subsequently reported as a direct call-out of the reality star.
This comes weeks after Phyna and Ashmusy clashed publicly on August 27, 2026, over a proposed celebrity boxing match. Phyna said she had been involved with the organisers for months and personally introduced Ashmusy to them after suggesting her as a potential opponent.
The reality star alleged that Ashmusy later asked the organisers to remove her from the event and replace her with someone else. Calling it a betrayal, Phyna accused Ashmusy of trying to “remove food from my mouth” and described her as a “bad person” and “wicked soul.”
Ashmusy denied trying to sabotage Phyna, and admitted asking for a different opponent because she was uncomfortable fighting Phyna, whom she considered a friend, but said the organisers assured her they could have separate opponents. Many netizens supported Phyna.
But What Exactly Connects Nkechi Blessing And Phyna?
Phyna’s response centred largely on this question. After seeing Nkechi’s video, she questioned why the actress had suddenly decided to address her publicly.
According to Phyna, the two were not friends and did not have an ongoing relationship. Instead, she said their interaction had been connected to a possible movie role and a separate conversation about doing a stream together.
That account is partly reflected in the Instagram screenshots Phyna shared after the call-out. The screenshots show that Phyna and Nkechi had been communicating on Instagram from August 5. Phyna initially messaged Nkechi about a possible 30–45-minute in-person stream.
Nkechi responded warmly, calling her “My love” and telling her that she had wanted to message her. The conversation then moved to Nkechi’s upcoming movie.
“You get time for my next movie so”
Nkechi told Phyna that she planned to start shooting between September 3 and 5. Phyna asked about the production, and the conversation moved to her availability and fee.
Nkechi asked how much she’d charge and indicated that it would be a three-day shoot. Phyna explained that she was doing her 100-hour challenge at the time and would get back to her.
Later that evening, they continued discussing the budget, with Phyna mentioning ₦1.5 million.
The tone of the exchange at that point was casual and friendly, with Nkechi referring to Phyna as “My love” and Phyna calling her “Active Mama” and later “My queen”.
The Instagram exchange continued into August 8, when Nkechi told Phyna not to worry about the movie shoot because she was taking too long to respond, adding that they would do the stream when she returned.
Phyna explained that she was not very active on Instagram and was more active on Snapchat and WhatsApp. On August 27, Phyna sent another message:
“My queen tell me na”
The screenshots the BBNaija star later shared do not show another substantive conversation between them after that. That is why the August exchange became central to Phyna’s response on September 17.
Phyna Hits Back At Nkechi Blessing
In her response, Phyna said she was trying to understand why Nkechi had suddenly addressed her after their earlier conversation. She said:
“Since after that chat me and you no get any conversation again, so where is all this your nonsense videos coming from?”
She then tagged Nkechi and asked:
“Abi na clout you wan chase? Wassup, grandma, wassup?”
Phyna’s response did not end with the question about their relationship. She also addressed another part of Nkechi’s criticism involving her appearance because in a separate post, the former who seemingly saw Phyna’s first response to her earlier callout made a post saying:
“Phyna go get a good wig before you set your camera next time…wa gbe ooooo 🤮 .”
Phyna in response said she had simply given her side of an earlier issue and then showed the wig she said Nkechi had told her to check.
“This is the hair you say I should check.”
From there, her response became more heated as she challenged Nkechi’s comments about their age difference. When Nkechi reminded her that she was 37 and older than her, Phyna responded by calling her “Grandma” repeatedly.
“Grandma, respect yourself.”
She also pointed out that she was 29 and would turn 30 the following year.
Phyna maintained that she had been trying to live her life without getting involved in unnecessary online drama. She said she had only explained her side of the earlier issue because Nkechi’s video had brought the matter back to her attention.
“I really want to try and mind my business today.”
But after seeing the actress’ video, she said she felt compelled to respond. At one point, Phyna questioned whether the exchange itself amounted to bullying.
“This will not be bully again. I don’t know what to call this one.”
She also challenged Nkechi over what she described as an unprovoked video.
“You just do video unprovoked. I’ve explained the other side of the story.”
Conclusion
The exchange between the two women is notable partly because of how different their August interaction looked from what happened on September 17.
In the screenshots Phyna shared, their earlier messages were friendly and centred on professional plans ranging from a proposed stream, a possible movie role, filming dates and payment.
By September 17, however, Nkechi was publicly telling Phyna to calm down, respect herself and stop doing too much, while Phyna was questioning why the actress had suddenly turned her attention to her.
Nkechi’s criticism was focused mainly on what she described as Phyna’s pattern of online confrontations. Phyna, on the other hand, focused on their limited relationship and questioned why their previous private interaction had turned into a public call-out.
For now, the public exchange has left both women with their own explanations of how the situation reached this point.
And what started with an August conversation about a stream and a possible movie role had, by Thursday, September 17, become a very public war of words between Nkechi Blessing and Phyna.
