Nollywood actress Olaide Oyedeji has opened up about her personal life, failed relationships, body enhancement procedures and spiritual journey, offering rare insight into the experiences that have shaped her over the years.
Speaking during a recent appearance on Talk to B podcast hosted by Biola Bayo, the actress reflected on her role as a single mother, her decision to undergo a Brazilian Butt Lift (BBL) and veneers, and the lessons learned from two major relationships that did not lead to marriage.
Oyedeji acknowledged entering past relationships without clear expectations and admitted ignoring red flags, decisions she says contributed to their eventual breakdown. She also addressed public conversations around her body transformation, stating that while the procedures boosted her confidence, personal growth and self-awareness have been more significant in her journey toward healing and stability.
Now focused on motherhood, entrepreneurship and faith, the actress says her priority is building financial independence and becoming “whole” on her own terms rather than pursuing marriage.
Motherhood and Relocation
During the interview, Olaide Oyedeji described herself as a single mother of four “plus one,” a reference to her niece whom she raises as her own. She said motherhood remains her primary responsibility, but emphasized that being a mother should not come at the expense of personal identity.
According to the actress, she made the decision to relocate from Nigeria back to Germany after observing that her children were struggling to adjust locally. The move, she disclosed, required her to rebuild financially from scratch. Starting over meant re-establishing stability, income streams and routine in a different environment.
Oyedeji said the transition was not easy, but she considers it necessary. She added that she involves her children in conversations about life decisions and encourages them to surpass her achievements. Her message to them, she noted, is simply that each generation must improve on the last.
While acknowledging the pressures of single parenthood, she maintained that prioritizing her children’s wellbeing remains non-negotiable. At the same time, she stressed that women must avoid losing themselves entirely in motherhood, a balance she says she is still learning to maintain.
Failed Relationships and Accountability
Addressing her romantic history, Olaide Oyedeji spoke candidly about two major relationships that ended without marriage, acknowledging her own role in their breakdown.
She admitted that in both cases, she entered the relationships without clearly defining her expectations. “I went in with little or no expectations,” she said, explaining that the lack of structure later created conflict and disappointment. According to Oyedeji, she often believed she could change certain traits in her partners rather than confront incompatibility early.
“I saw the red flags,” she stated, adding that she sometimes chose men she already knew were not right for her, hoping time and effort would produce a different outcome. In hindsight, she described that approach as a mistake. Apologising to her ex this same mistake, Olaide Oyedeji said:
“As a matter of fact, I think I owe my ex an apology. I think I should apologise… to the second one… And the reason why I’m apologising is because there are some relationships you do not say yes to no matter what. And for saying yes, I apologize. I’m sorry… I chose him with the expectation of ah I can drag him to being Mr. Right.”
Reflecting on the end of her first relationship, the actress cited impatience as a contributing factor. Her second relationship, she explained, began too soon after the first had ended, leaving unresolved emotions that affected her judgment. She said:
“My first relationship was just hitting the rock. Yeah. And I jumped into a new relationship, which is part of the mistakes that I made. You ask the difference between the two relationships. I could not even see the other relationship well and assess it because I jumped out from one and jumped into the other one. And relationship doesn’t work like that. You even need time to heal…that was my last relationship. Ever since then, I’ve been single. I didn’t die. As a matter of fact, I got better. I got prettier. I got smarter.”
“So settling down for now it’s not even on my agenda probably that is why I didn’t really feel moved because marriage is a good thing but it’s not an achievement. It is definitely not an achievement and the last time I checked they don’t pick late comer with it. I might eventually decide not to even get married… I might even get married and people on social media would not know. Once bitten, twice shy. It has happened to me before.
It didn’t really end well. My first relationship was not on social media. So when we even parted ways, people didn’t really get to, you know, and I didn’t talk and the second one was right there up on social media. Do you understand? So for now, getting married is not really in my agenda.”
The second relationship was with actor Olabanji Olanrewaju aka Olukotan. The pair were together for several years, had children, and welcomed a son in 2021 while living in Germany. They eventually split in 2023 amid public controversy, including past “deadbeat” allegations Oyedeji had levelled against Olabanji. She also addressed his recent remarriage in December 2025, dismissing any notion of competition, signalling that she has moved past the chapter. In her words:
“Oh, congratulations. We’ve not spoken, so l’ve not had time to congratulate. So, congratulations. Getting married is a thing of joy. I’ve never been married before, but I’m happy for everyone who has. Well, how do I feel? I feel I feel happy for both. Yeah. And I pray that God bless their union because eventually we will all settle down with somebody. I am somebody’s ex. I might eventually settle down with somebody’s ex. I’m pretty sure that I will settle down with somebody’s ex because have you been single all your life? Like you understand?”
For now, she emphasised that her focus remains on financial stability, brand development and personal growth rather than pursuing another relationship.
The actress concluded that accountability has been central to her healing process. Rather than assign blame, she said she has chosen to examine her patterns, describing that self-reflection as a necessary step toward becoming whole.
Body Enhancement and Self-Confidence
Olaide Oyedeji has been candid about the ways she has invested in her body and appearance. She says it’s not for superficial approval, but as part of her journey toward self-confidence and self-expression. “For me as a lady, that is one of the best decisions I’ve made,” she said, reflecting on her body transformation. “I won’t even lie. I look at my throwback videos and throwback pictures, I say, ‘Thank God,’ because it’s growth. At least we get to see something to compare with.”
Her enhancements include a BBL (Brazilian Butt Lift) and dental veneers. She emphasized that these changes are part of a holistic approach to self-care: “Just this… just the surgery that I’ve done and my veneers. Aside that, nothing else. I’m not really a fan of things on the face. So, no, no, no, no, no. I don’t like it. Leave my face the way it is.”
Oyedeji is clear that body enhancement is more than aesthetics. She says it’s about confidence, discipline, and maintaining her results. “After you’ve done your body, you just have to live in faith that everything should just keep going well,” she said. She maintains her figure through careful diet, exercise, and using supplements which helps curb hunger. “First thing you do is block the channel that you are using to add weight. You cannot lose if you don’t stop adding,” she explained.
Beyond the physical, she links her transformation to self-awareness and growth: “There should be more to you than your big bunda, because me too I used to turn… very well. But then let me just advise you… there is more to life than nyansh. There is more to life than just showing off. So when you’re done doing your BBL, you have to be ready to exercise or take care of it. Be cautious of what you eat and, you know, start using your common sense too.”
Oyedeji says her enhancements are not about seeking external validation but about being “an asset” in every area of her life, a standard she also expects of her future partner.
Faith and Spiritual Realignment
Oyedeji traced her spiritual foundation to a prophetic household, noting, “My mom is a prophetess. My dad is a prophet.” Growing up surrounded by faith, she said, gave her early exposure to Christianity, but it was only later in life that she developed a personal, conscious relationship with God.
“I’m a body in Christ,” she explained, emphasizing that her identity as a Christian informs every part of her life, even her public persona. “There is a meaning for that. No matter how you want to do it, you are filled with good and bad. We cannot separate it,” she said, acknowledging the tension between her past lifestyle and her present spiritual awareness.
Oyedeji credited her faith for guiding her through professional and personal challenges, particularly during times of public criticism. “After my last relationship, social media was supposed to support me, but it was against me. People were cursing me… at that point, I had to lean on God,” she said. Her spiritual grounding, she added, gave her the strength to navigate hardship and remain resilient.
Through this alignment, Oyedeji described a transformation in how she approaches life and decision-making. “Being self-aware is the only new thing. Now I know who I am in Christ,” she said, highlighting the central role of faith in her ongoing journey of self-growth and restoration.
Career, Business, and Reinvention
Oyedeji has leveraged her platform to diversify beyond acting, describing a deliberate push into entrepreneurship and media. “I love to talk, I love to enlighten people where I can,” she said, explaining the motivation behind her ventures.
Her Bold, Blunt & Loud (BBL) podcast reflects her unfiltered and candid personality. The show according to her offers advice and conversations that she believes can help others avoid mistakes she once made. “Most of those mistakes are avoidable. I wanted people to have a story to hold on to,” she said.
In addition to media, Oyedeji runs Basat NG, her beaded brand, which she manages alongside her children. She described their involvement as both educational and practical: “Whenever I’m doing it, they are with me. They are very understanding, even when bribes are involved,” she laughed, highlighting the balance she strikes between motherhood and business.
Oyedeji also ventured into reality-based matchmaking with her Find Me Love (FML) show, a platform designed to guide participants toward meaningful relationships. “Settling down is not the goal; happiness and mutual care are,” she said, underlining her refusal to enter relationships out of desperation.
Financial independence, she emphasized, is central to her empowerment. “I don’t have to beg any man. I’ve seen myself. I don’t need to say yes,” she said. Her businesses and media projects, she explained, are not just income streams but expressions of agency and self-sufficiency that allow her to make choices without compromise.
The Woman She Is Now
Today, Laide Oyedeji says she is a woman defined not by validation from others, but by the clarity of her own self-worth. “I’ve seen myself. I don’t need to say yes,” she said, reflecting on her journey from seeking love to embracing independence. As a single mother of five, she balances career, faith, and motherhood with intentionality, prioritizing growth over romance.
She acknowledges that life has not been without its challenges, particularly in love. Yet she frames those experiences as lessons rather than scars.
Oyedeji’s story is a testament to reinvention.
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