How My Mother Shocked My Abusive Father When She Left Him —Singer Asa

Soulful singer Bukola Elemide, profoundly called Asa, says her abusive father was angry after her mother left him in the most surprising way.

Asa disclosed she had to advise her mother to divorce her father, Akin Elemide, because of his excessive abuse towards her mother, herself, and her other siblings.

The 39-year-old Nigerian-French singer told Ebuka Obi-Uchendu on Bounce Radio’s ‘BlackBox’ that her father’s obnoxious nature made her think all men were like him.

“He’s austere and disciplined. I take those, but what I’m not is the way he brought us up. He was a disciplinarian and, yes, abusive to my mum. With the kids, he overdid it to keep us straight. It was too confusing,” Asa said.

“You love and then hate. I found myself unsteady around him. I saw him abuse my mum. It disturbed me for years. I thought all men were like that for a while until my grandfather, who has been with his wife for 50 years said no.

“I told my mum, ‘hey, woman, what are you doing here? You need to leave’. I was a little girl, and she didn’t listen. I thought, if this is it, I don’t want to get married. Looking back, I don’t think they were compatible.”

The ‘Satan Be Gone’ crooner, Asa, narrated that her father was caught by surprise when her mother left him.

“He loved my music. He’s proud. He would read the news and vaunt with friends. He told me one day, ‘if not for the beating, you won’t be this successful. It’s because I disciplined you’. I was like, ‘wow, what about mum?’” Asa said.

“Me and my older brother, we were the experimental [siblings]. My brother got immune to the beating, but I didn’t want to be touched. When my mum realised she was done was when she called us to go on a trip.

“She said we were not going to come back. This was in Jos. We left dad there and came back to Lagos. He figured it out that we’d left him. It took months of planning and I was looking at mum like, ‘when did you wake up?’

“Dad was mad at us. He said I was in on it. He took it out on me. There were things I wish I’d told him that he failed to see. I did tell him some things and he only stuttered. It took courage. I was scared of him, even on the phone.”

Asa’s father, a cinematographer, passed away in 2016.