Why unmarried women over 35 should have kids outside wedlock – Ayo Mogaji

• Ayo Mogaji has advised women who have reached a certain age to prioritize motherhood over marriage.
• The veteran actress and mother of one made the statement in a recent interview.
• Ayo Mogaji said for those who are above 35 and want to have kids, they should do so as soon as possible even if they are yet to settle down, while given reasons for saying so.

Veteran actress Ayo Mogaji has urged women over the age of 35 to prioritise motherhood, even outside of wedlock if they wish to have children.

Ayo Mogaji shared her views during a recent interview with Oyinmomo TV, where she discussed societal pressures, marriage and motherhood.

The 60-year-old who gave birth to her first child at the age of 40, adviced unmarried women over 35 to consider having children with a partner even if marriage is not in the immediate plans.

Ayo Mogaji encouraged women in such situations to pursue motherhood regardless of the man’s willingness to take responsibility for the child. In her words:

“For women who are 35 or older and do not have a husband, but are in a relationship with someone who is not ready for marriage but willing to have a child, they should not hesitate to have a child, even if the man won’t take responsibility.”

Drawing from her personal experiences, Ayo Mogaji spoke about the societal pressures she faced.

She eventually married UK-based physiotherapist Victor Oduleye in 2006 after enduring 13 years of emotional abuse in a previous relationship.

Reflecting on these experiences, she stressed the importance of prioritising personal happiness and fulfillment over societal expectations.

The actress also touched on the challenges faced by older women seeking marriage, suggesting that age can sometimes be a barrier in finding a husband.

She emphasised that women should focus on building their families instead of waiting for marriage to fulfill their desire for children. Ayo Mogaji added:

“At 35, many women are told they are too old to be a suitable wife, and often face the stigma of being unable to conform to traditional expectations.

“Even if they marry later, they may already be old by the time their children grow up, while their peers are becoming grandmothers.”

Ayo Mogaji encouraged women to seize the opportunity for motherhood when it presents itself, either through pregnancy or adoption rather than allowing societal norms to dictate their choices. She advised:

“If you meet someone you like and both of you are ready to have a child, go ahead and do it.”

“If no such opportunity arises, adoption is always an option for women who desire to become mothers.”