Following the birth of Actress Adesua Etomi’s baby which was announced a month after he was born, a social media user has encouraged women to hide their pregnancy till they give birth.
However, singer Bez’s wife, Tito Idakula has countered the tweet saying that there are many women who hid their pregnancies and suffered painful losses, and also those who went public with theirs and had healthy babies.
She added that what such posts does, is putting the blame on families who have experienced painful losses.
She wrote;
THIS POST PISSED ME OFF!!
I had to bring this here to address something. This is putting blame on families who have experienced painful losses. Everyone has a CHOICE. Many people hid their pregnancies and still had painful losses. Many shared and have beautiful healthy babies. Simi even announced her pregnancy and inspired so many women to find joy during a sensitive season. That she chose not to announce the birth of her baby was her CHOICE, same with Adesua.
Everything is a choice but messages like these are subtly placing blame on people who are already grieving and struggling with guilt in one way or the other. Please let us STOP IT! It is hardly EVER a woman’s fault when she has a miscarriage or a baby loss and that is something doctors always say! Please please please, if we can’t be supportive or encouraging, let us just keep these opinions that are filled with blame and shame to ourselves!
Thank you!
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