Nollywood actress and filmmaker Biodun Okeowo aka Omoborty has stirred a serious conversation online after sharing a brutally honest take on the emotional and financial toll of constantly helping others.
In a post on her Instagram page, the curvy actress didn’t mince words as she addressed what many celebrities and everyday Nigerians experience but rarely say out loud. She began:
“If you keep helping everybody, one day you’ll become the one who needs help… and they’ll ask you what you did with your money.”
Omoborty revealed that a recent phone conversation with a colleague in the entertainment industry left her both shaken and reflective.
According to her, the colleague opened up about receiving over 560 direct messages from people asking for financial help, some of which were so overwhelming that he decided to stop checking his DMs altogether.
“With some requests, you’d think he owns a bank,” she wrote, noting that even though people are suffering, scams and manipulative tactics have made it hard to know who is genuinely in need.
For Omoborty, the issue is deeply personal. She admitted that there have been many times when she planned to spend money on herself, only to divert it to someone else’s emergency. She continued:
“Sometimes I want to do something for myself, only to realise I’ve already used the money to sort others out.
“If you respond to every touching story, one day you’ll become a touching story too.”
She went on to encourage fellow givers to set boundaries, warning that the same people who praise your generosity today could be the ones dragging you tomorrow when things go south. She advised:
“Please don’t guilt-trip people. If you ask someone for help and they couldn’t do it at that time, don’t see them as enemies or wicked. Everyone has their own responsibilities.”
Omoborty, who has long been admired for her openness and spirituality, ended her post with a heartfelt prayer that her children’s generation would not have to suffer the way she and many others did. She concluded:
“Iran meta o gbodo tosi… Some of us, our children didn’t meet a soft landing. They suffered with us. But the prayer is that their own children will meet ease, softness, and comfort we never tasted.”
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