GET HIM LAUGHING
Could watching Fallon be the cure to a communication freeze? It may sound silly, but yeah. A study in Human Nature found that people are more likely to share personal details after a laugh. Just make sure your man isn’t the punch-line, Tannen says. He might take that as a hit to his masculinity and clam up.
THAT’S WHAT HE SAID!
Guys tell what makes them more willing to spill their guts.
“As hard as it is for me to express strong feelings, it’s often even more difficult to admit that I have no feelings about something that really matters to my partner, like her friend issues. It would be cool if a girl made it okay for me to sometimes not have anything to say.” — Will T., 25
“If you want to keep us talking, don’t use what we tell you as leverage later on. Sometimes, I’ll open up about something, and my wife will bring up what I said when we’re having an argument and use it against me.” — Justin S., 30
“I’m the type of person who takes a while to open up, but spending time together makes it easier. It helps if a girl doesn’t want to get into a deep conversation the minute we start hanging out. We can build up to that.” — Steven S., 23
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