Just the other day, ladies in relationships were being advised on social media to get a side-guy and that poses the direct question; of what use is an extra boyfriend when you already have one?
In a post published early in August, self-acclaimed love doctor, Joro Olumofin claims that it’s time for every lady “to have a contingency boyfriend, a backup boyfriend”
What this means is that he believes it is wise for women in relationships to have side guys to whom they can be married in “6 months” if their real boyfriends messes up.
The man says his advice is influenced by the number of heartbreaks he has seen among women dumped by their boyfriends. He says that if a woman keeps a side guy during her relationship, she won’t feel so much heartache as she would have someone to fall back on.
Obviously, having a sideguy will be blatant cheating. Whether he’s a sideguy in the real sense of the word, that is, one who performs all boyfriend’s duties including sex, or one “who fits all your criteria of a husband material but is your platonic friend,” it is cheating nonetheless. If you’re hiding him from your boyfriend, it is wrong. If you are hiding from your boyfriend, your real intent for the other guy, it is still cheating.
When you choose to have a sideguy, either as a cushion for any potential dumping by your boyfriend, as revenge for your man’s cheating or for any other reason whatsoever, it is wrong.
The intent, no matter how noble or self-helpful, does not justify the act. Things like double-dating and keeping another partner on the side can be coated with all sorts of names and ultra-modern bullshit excuses and all that, but it still does not make it right.
Basically, if the relationship is meant to be exclusive, keep it exclusive. If you can’t, then just get out of it. If the other person can’t seem to keep their end of the bargain and you can’t deal, then get out of it too.
Male or female, it is time everyone began to take commitment a little more seriously around here.
Without a blatant disregard for commitment on the part of men, advise like Joro’s won’t be thought about let alone voiced.
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