4. Try various techniques:
While it’s great to stick with what you know, it also doesn’t hurt to add new things to your sexual repertoire. For example, try incorporating anal play into penetrative sex, recommends Sinclair. A butt plug or finger can make for an all-around tighter fit during penetrative sex, which can feel pleasurable to both partners.
5. Use lube, lube, and more lube:
Even with anal masturbation, lubrication is key: You need to keep things slick, Sinclair says, because unlike the vagina, the anus does not self-lubricate. Without lube, “you will experience friction that doesn’t feel good, and it may also cause small tears inside the anal canal.” While these aren’t necessarily serious sex injuries, they’re certainly not comfortable: If anal orgasm is the goal, you’re going to want (read: need) to lubricate liberally.
Just make sure your lube doesn’t contain a numbing agent, Sinclair cautions. For anyone who’s anxious about an anal experience, a product that promises to spare your sensitive sphincter probably sounds great. But numbing your anus not only means you won’t experience any of the orgasmic pleasure you set out to feel, it also means you won’t register a rough session until it’s too late and your poor tuchus reverts to recovery mode for days. In short, go all in, and enjoy the ride
