Read this interesting piece below:
We, Silvija and John, had known each other for years through New York’s comedy scene, but we hit a new level of camaraderie the day we discovered we had both gone through infertility treatments with our respective partners. John had heard through mutual friends that Silvija and her husband had been seeing a fertility specialist for more than a year. It turned out that John could relate: he and his wife had gone through five grueling years of miscarriages, IUIs, and IVFs before giving birth to their adorable twins. And if Silvija wanted to, John and his wife were happy to compare notes, recommend doctors, or simply lend a sympathetic ear.
Immediately, Silvija felt a sense of relief. Her friends and family had been nothing but kind, but a lot of them simply couldn’t relate to her experience — or skipped over the “listening” part and went right to “advice.” John and his wife had been through a similar experience and were full of knowledge, but still took the time to listen. Eventually, the two of us co-wrote infertile, a sketch-comedy show about what it’s like to be part of an unenviable club: couples who have struggled to get pregnant.
Here are a few things we’d like you to know:
1. Yes, the sex is weird.
You’ve probably seen it in movies and TV shows: the couple so desperate for kids they schedule their sex. The wife takes her temperature, pees on a fertility monitor, charts her cervical mucus. The husband rushes home from work, ready for action, because it’s got to be now! Now! Now! Afterward, there’s no time for cuddling , because she has to roll over and hug her legs to her chest; he sighs with relief that he can still perform on cue.
It’s a cliché, but it’s based in reality. Women put “Date Night!!!” into a shared Google Calendar. Men find the following (insanely counterproductive) mantra running through their head: “You need to cum! The future depends on this!” The lady’s orgasm is no longer on the list of priorities. And gentlemen with free time can forget about masturbating… doctor’s orders! You have to save up that sperm!
