9. Please don’t tell us to “relax” or that “it will happen when we stop trying.”
It seems like everyone we’ve met has a sister-in-law or cousin or hairstylist who had a baby after they “stopped trying.” Full disclosure: Silvija and her husband did eventually get pregnant after they had stopped fertility treatments. But John and his wife found success through medical help. Either way, hearing that you should “relax” and “stop trying” when you’re in the middle of the process feels frustrating and condescending. Sperm motility doesn’t increase if you light a scented candle and think happy thoughts.
